Getting over the ‘quarter life crisis’
I feel like I’ve banged on so much about the fact that I’m turning 26 this year, but it’s really hitting me that I am and spurred me on to write this post. Will I now be classed as mid-late 20’s? When does it change from mid 20’s to late 20’s? It’s not actually freaking me out, I feel like I’ve had my freak out/‘quarter life crisis’ already.
From maybe 21-24 I majorly suffered from the quarter life crisis! I feel like I had it early and I’m here to share the good news that there is light at the end of the tunnel!
More than ever, we are under so much pressure of having a super successful career, whilst achieving so much and having everything figured out. To be honest, it wasn’t my parents who was putting the pressure on me, or anyone else but myself. It really is so hard not to. We live in a world where we pick up our phones, and after a few scrolls through social media of seeing someone with a new amazing job, someone who’s just bought their first home, or just that one annoying over achieving person. Although we’re super happy for them, it naturally can make us feel like a pile of poop and that we need to be achieving those things as well or OMG they’ve got it all figured out and I haven’t. Is social media is killing us? A big topic to talk about, but that’s another story for another day!
Through my earlier 20’s, EVERY SINGLE DAY I would think, what the hell am I doing with my life.
I don’t even know what I want to do so how am I supposed to work hard towards something which I don’t even know what it is that I want! I was also going through an on/off long term relationship and thought I’d never find anyone else, thought I’d be alone forever with a crappy job and not even be able to afford a cat to become a cat lady.
It’s only been the last year or so that I’ve felt more content with life in general and not worry about what I’m doing with my life. If you’re going through this crisis right now, you aren’t alone. I think we all go through it in some way shape or form! I recently posted 20 things I wish I could have told myv20 year old self, i’m sure you’ll be able to relate to most of these!
At the end of the day, I truly believe that we are the ones putting the pressure on ourselves! We can’t compare our chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 10, even if we are the same age, things happen at different times for different people.
I had no IDEA what I wanted to do with my life, there were so many things I wanted to do but just felt like I couldn’t. I loved my blogging but before, I couldn’t see that I could turn it in to my job and I really wanted to travel but wasn’t brave enough to take the plunge. One day I did and luckily my boyfriend came with me and we had the bestest time ever.
When I came back, I was jobless, but all of a sudden, I wasn’t worried about what I was going to do, everything works itself out in the end. We have our whole lives to work, to own a home, to get married etc, so we do not need to rush it! These moments and time we spend worrying about this, we will never ever get that time back.
Writing this post has actually made me realise, maybe it was the travelling that has helped me get over my early ‘quarter life crisis’. Not working, and taking a step back from everything and realising that having a successful job is not the be all and end all! It is great and very helpful but it isn’t everything.
I was so lucky that I was able to travel and I understand that we can’t all just quit our jobs and run in to the sun, but just take a step back and think about the things that are important in life. Who really is putting the pressure on? It’s only ourselves! We will all eventually get there, and if we don’t then we’re probably doing something better anyway!
Now I know, the end goal is to blog full time and I’m working towards it. But for right now, I’m happy doing what I’m doing and that eventually (fingers crossed) I will get there. Time goes SO quickly, I can’t spend all of my 20’s worrying about what I want to do! I’m happy doing what I do now and I’ll deal with any hiccups/storms/up’s and down’s as they come my way.
The ‘quarter life crisis’ is only temporary, and it will pass! I’m not saying I’ve got it all figured out, because I REALLY haven’t, I’ve just learned not to worry about that aspect of my life. I think my poor brain is full of worrying about a variety of things, this is one thing I can now tick off and work on the rest of the worrying! I truly think it’s just a part of growing up and let’s not waste our 20’s stressing about what we will be doing in our 40’s because before we know it, we’ll be wishing we were back in our 20’s!
As the saying goes ‘It isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain’.
On a much lighter note… this is one of my favourite outfits in a long time! I think the red against the monochrome goes so perfectly! I was a bit nervous to wear the PVC skirt, it was a little bit sqeauky when I was walking in it but its actually a really flattering length.
Sending lots of love